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Feb 24, 2022 · Critics contend that, in focusing on personal risk, Leonhardt is giving us permission to stop caring about people who are still in danger — in particular, the disabled and immunocompromised.
- Loosened Mask Mandates
The American people are sick of the pandemic and the...
- Loosened Mask Mandates
- You’re no longer a people pleaser. This is perhaps the most significant sign that you’ve stopped caring what people think. You see, when we’re caught up in worrying about others’ opinions, we often find ourselves bending over backwards to please them.
- You express your opinions freely. There was a time when I would withhold my opinions, particularly if they went against the grain. I worried about how people would react, whether they’d judge me or think less of me.
- You don’t seek validation. Did you know that the desire for validation is actually hardwired into our brains? It’s a survival instinct from our caveman days, designed to ensure we stay within the safety of our tribe.
- You make decisions confidently. Once upon a time, making decisions felt like walking through a minefield. Every choice was weighed down by the fear of judgement or disapproval from others.
- You Become the True Version of Yourself. When you constantly seek external validation and social approval, you often suppress your true thoughts, feelings, and desires to be accepted by others.
- You Gain Respect from Others. When you let go of the need for external approval and become more confident in yourself and your choices, you’re more likely to gain respect from others.
- You Attract Like-Minded People. Have you ever heard the saying, “You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are”? This is especially true when it comes to attracting healthy relationships.
- You Become More Open-Minded. When you constantly seek external validation, you tend to limit yourself to the opinions and advice of people who may not have your best interest at heart.
- Not Nice by Dr. Aziz Gazipura. Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty … And Start Speaking up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, and Unapologetically Being Yourself.
- You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero. You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. I absolutely love You Are a Badass by Jen Sincerio because it is packed with lots of great and relatable advice on how to get rid of self-doubt and start living the life you truly desire.
- The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck by Sarah Knight. The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have with People You Don’t Like Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide)
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The Four Agreements: Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (Toltec Wisdom Book) The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a wonderful book to help you change your mindset and let go of what others think.
- In Your Personal Life
- In Romance
- At Work
1. Create and enforce boundaries.
Boundaries are the foundation of healthy relationships. Every person has limits on what they find to be acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Unfortunately, not many people actually take the time to think about their boundaries and define them. That’s an important step to take because it removes the confusion and ambiguity that often comes with emotional situations. It’s easy to make bad decisions when you’re flooded with stress and emotion. Instead, you make that decision ahead of time, so y...
2. Don’t over-invest in other people.
People who care too much will often find that it’s not a reciprocal relationship. They will devote excessive energy to worrying and fussing over the people they care about, while those people won’t devote nearly as much energy back. Sure, they may care about you a lot; they may just not be wired in the same way that you are. Frankly, most people are primarily concerned with themselves and their own problems, first and foremost. A good way to manage these relationships is to exert an equal amo...
3. Minimize your contact with negative people.
Negative people have a problem for every solution. You’re not going to change the way they think. That’s something they have to do for themselves. Stop and make an assessment about the people you spend time with. How do they make you feel when you leave their presence? Do you feel happy and energized? Or do you feel drained and negative? Are you walking around with negative feelings because they are loading their problems and worries onto you? It’s good to be a supportive friend, but some peo...
11. Take good care of yourself.
A healthy relationship is between people who take appropriate care of themselves and one another. Unfortunately, far too many people try to use a relationship to either fix or avoid fixing themselves. Caring too much for a romantic partner can be a symptom of this. It’s a way to distract oneself from looking in the mirror at their own flaws because they’re so busy trying to care for their partner. That usually doesn’t end well. It doesn’t end well because the flaws or problems they have are s...
12. Work on your trust issues.
Trust issues will torpedo and sink a relationship in no time. Do you spend your time worrying about what your partner is doing when you’re not around? Do you worry they will cheat on you? Do you do things like call to check up on your partner when they have a night out? People will regularly excuse this kind of behavior in themselves as “caring too much.” They are vitally invested in ensuring that their partner is safe and cared for at all times while completely ignoring how controlling and u...
13. Nurture reasonable expectations.
Some people care too much with so much emotion that they have set themselves up for failure. They go into a relationship thinking that they will change their partner to match their vision. The relationship then becomes emotional chaos when the partner fails to live up to those expectations; or, worse, rejects them altogether. It’s good to care about your partner. It’s good to nurture and encourage their goals, growth, and desires. However, there will not be a happy ending if you try to force...
18. Never forget, you are a replaceable cog in the machine.
Are you the type of worker that says things like, “This place would fall apart without me!”? Do you spend your time constantly worrying about the next deadline? Do you maximize every single second of productivity that you possibly can? Do you volunteer for anything that needs to be done because you want to be perceived as a “go-getter?” Do you skip out on safety measures in the name of expediency? Do you work off the clock or through your breaks? You are setting yourself up for failure by car...
19. Temper your expectations of your work environment.
You must make sure your expectations are in line with what is reasonable with your work environment. For example, let’s say you get hired into a great company. They have a proven track record of promoting from within. They offer a living wage and benefits. They also offer options for you to get additional training, expand your knowledge, and earn more money. Fantastic. That sounds like a place you can actually have a career at. On the other hand, maybe the job isn’t so good. Maybe they underp...
20. Keep your personal and professional life separate.
There are far too many businesses that blur the lines between your personal and professional life. People who care too much about the job are perfect targets for this sort of thing because they often have poor boundaries. Keep your personal and professional life separated as much as you can. How do you create healthy boundaries with work? Do not install work-related apps on your personal devices. Do not check your email or answer phone calls from work when you are off the clock. You do not ex...
You can learn to stop taking input from people who don't care about you or from people who actively want to harm you. It's related to you trusting your own judgement and using your own common sense, although it is really hard to do and takes time to learn.
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Jul 11, 2020 · Caring is counterproductive when helping others becomes a means to avoid or self-medicate your own pain. If you’re focused on taking care of someone else, you don’t have to think about your ...
