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May 30, 2017 · One of our most basic rights is the right to own our boundaries. The problem is that most of us don’t really understand boundaries. We think that they have something to do with making other ...
- Boundaries are big, destructive implosions. Many of us believe that setting boundaries will have a catastrophic impact on our life. We assume that a boundary must be this massive, impenetrable wall between us and other people.
- Boundaries are “one size fits all” There is a belief that all boundaries are the same with all people. But boundaries are not a homogeneous experience.
- Boundaries hurt relationships. Setting boundaries with people we care about is scary! But why is that? Boundaries represent limits, communicating to others what is and is not acceptable to us.
- External/Behavioural Boundary
- Psychological Boundary
- Containing Boundary
What people classically think about as a boundary: Includes both the action and, crucially, knowing what we are uncomfortable or comfortable with. It can be useful to think about these as our ‘limits’ (what we will accept/do/not do) rather than a ‘boundary’ (something that we ‘put down’ or ‘do’ to another). So; I don’t accept you raising your voice...
The space between us. Includes allowing other people to experience their feelings without stepping in to shut them down with shame or rescuing; other people’s experience, truth and perception may differ from ours, allowing space for both; When receiving feedback, criticism or big feelings from another, it can help to ask yourself; 1. Is it true? 2....
Self-regulation; for example, those that have experienced abuse or been consistently made to feel responsible for other people’s feelings (particularly in childhood) may particularly struggle with feeling overwhelming shame or intense anxiety if they put their needs first/say no/hold a boundary. Being triggered in this way can lead us to either inv...
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Space; Location; Gifts; Self-disclosure; How each of these is addressed and managed in the psychotherapy relationship holds great implications for the client’s welfare as well as for achieving desired therapeutic outcomes. Managing Boundaries. Boundaries may be avoided, crossed, or violated. To avoid a boundary means that it is not traversed ...
Mar 25, 2024 · Physical boundaries have to do with your body and personal space. Here’s a look at some ways that your physical limits may be violated. 1. Unwanted touch. You have the right to dictate who touches you, as well as how, where, and when they do so. Boundary violation example: You have asked your friend not to touch your hair, but they continue ...
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Apr 15, 2024 · Rules. Boundaries are about communication and taking ownership of your needs and limits. They allow freedom – you invite the other to love you in a way that makes you feel respected and valued – while rules are restrictive and limiting. “You can’t speak to other women/men.”. “You have to spend every weekend with me.”.
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Jul 27, 2022 · Abstract. This paper discusses boundaries and multiple relationships in Counselling and Psychotherapy. Boundary- crossing is a departure from commonly accepted practices that could potentially ...
