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Sep 23, 2019 · 1. If you are a prolific texter or put a lot of energy into how you worded the first text you sent, try to stay open to the possibility that they may not be as comfortable as you are communicating ...
- Patrick Allan
- Don’t ‘wait X days to reach out’ The first text is always the hardest. How long do you wait to message that cute guy from the gym? If you ask around, some people will tell you to wait for “this many days” before you make contact, but that strategy is flat-out silly.
- Don’t ever just text ‘Hey/Hi/Hello’ This was by far the most common advice you’ll find: don’t just text someone “hey.” In fact, if you browse some online dating profiles you’ll probably find people sharing the same advice.
- Focus your early texts on making plans. After you’ve made contact, focus your early text conversations on making plans. It’s exciting when that cute girl from OkCupid seems way into texting you, but as Christine Hassler, the author of 20-Something, 20-Everything, suggests, too much pre-date texting smothers any spark you might have on your actual first date
- Keep calm and don’t be pushy. Don’t make your early text messages an interview. Not only will you use up all your conversation starters before you actually meet that “guy your friend set you up with,” you’ll probably create unnecessary stress for yourself.
- You Don't Text Obsessively
- You Both Initiate Texting Conversations
- Your Conversations Have Emotional Depth
- You Don't Question Yourself Before Typing
- There's Consistency
While texting all day, every day is certainly fun, especially in the beginning of a relationship, it's definitely not sustainable. This constant texting style can be an indicator of codependence rather than actual interest. It’s not exactly uncommon either. Dawn Maslar, author of Men Chase, Women Choose previously told Elite Daily. "When a person f...
Have you ever decided tostop texting someoneand then realized, when you don't hear from them, you are the person always initiating conversation? It stings, but this kind of experiment can help you see your connection (or lack thereof) more clearly. You never want to be the sole person driving the relationship forward, and you definitely do not want...
Remember the bad texter I mentioned before? Yeah, he has never asked me how my day was. He pretty much only contacts me for plans or to tell me what's going on in his life. And although I love hanging out in person, I do wish that IRL connection translated more to his texting habits. As is, I don't feel comfortable texting him to tell him how thing...
You know when you question every single thing you say to someone, editing texts over and over before hitting send? Sometimes, you'll write something and then delete it several times, trying to figure out which version of your sentence is best, funniest, or sexiest. In the past, I've used group texts with my friendsto workshop messages I wanted to s...
When you're developing a relationship with someone, you should hear from them on a consistent basis. It should feel predictable and comfortable for both of you and for your lifestyles. For some couples, this might mean a few texts per day. For others, it might mean speaking a few times per week. As long as you communicate your expectations, you sho...
- Frequency of texting. How much texting is healthy? There’s no specific number of texts that would mean your texting habits are healthy or not. However, there should be consistency and equality in how much you text each other.
- Initiation of texting. Your texting needs to be reciprocal and mutual for it to be healthy. This doesn’t apply only to the initiation of texting but the way you communicate as well.
- Boundaries while texting. Healthy boundaries should exist in your relationship when you’re texting just the same as they do when you see each other in person.
- Expectations and texting. It seems natural to expect your partner to always respond to your texts right away and text first as often as you do. In a way, these expectations aren’t unhealthy, but they can create unhealthy pressure.
- Use the appropriate medium. Before you send the message, ask yourself if it’s appropriate to send via text. In general, text is considered as an informal and less personal medium.
- Think of your audience. Always think about who you’re sending the message to and who will see your message. For example, you might want to stay away from social media slang, abbreviations or emojis if you’re texting your employer.
- Don’t use all caps. Using capital letters throughout is never appropriate in an SMS, chat message, social media post or email. Not only is it hard to read (we’re more used to reading lowercase text), it will look like you’re angry or shouting.
- Read and re-read before sending. Bad grammar, wrong spelling and even auto-correct can make your text hard to understand. Make it a habit to read and check before sending.
Nov 2, 2020 · Science Weighs In. A new study suggests that we undervalue the bonding and enjoyment we get from hearing someone's voice. Like most people, I’ve been doing a lot of texting with friends and family lately. COVID-19 (and the physical separation it necessitates) has made socializing in person very limited, which means I’ve had to work harder ...
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Nov 24, 2021 · Consider using a service like Signal that allows you to auto-delete messages seconds, hours or days after you send them. • Turn off cloud backups. If you use Apple products, check to see if you ...
