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Dec 21, 2023 · 1. Have a Game Plan. Leadership thought-leader, Sheri Staak, says we need to feel confident going into the conversation. Know your facts, practice your wording, and be prepared for any outcome. Another factor in having a game plan is timing. Choose a time when the two of you can be alone, without distraction.
Oct 12, 2023 · The best way to confront a person is from a position of neutrality. You don’t want to be angry. If you are angry, it gives them ammunition to fire back at you, which will make you angrier, which will give them more ammunition, and on and on it goes. A calm approach gives you leverage to help determine the total truth.
- Jack Nollan
- Be Absolutely Sure The Liar Is, in Fact, Lying
- Consider The Right Approach
- Remain Confident
- Come to The Table with Love
- Be Cautious of Manipulation
- Be Sure to Have The Facts in Tow
- Keep It Conversational
- Ask Them Specific Questions
- Explain That You Won’T Tolerate Lying
- Keep A Record of The Conversation, When Possible
It’s easy to jump the gun when we think someone is lying to us, especially when it’s someone whom we’re really close with. However, the first step you should take before confronting this person is ensuring he or she is actually lying. Double and triple check your sources and facts, according to Newsweek. Also, be attuned to the other signs someone ...
Sometimes the lie at hand might be so minor that confronting the person about it might not be in your best interest. Consider the lie fully and determine where it ranks in severity. The decision to confront the person should ultimately rely on the type of lie and the relationship with the liar, according to LIVESTRONG. Did your partner lie about ch...
Now, let’s say you’ve made the definite decision that you want to confront this person. You should head into the conversation feeling as confident as possible in the face of the lie, according to leadership expert Sheri Staak who penned a LinkedIn article on the topic. Having the right factsready to present can help you with this confidence, but we...
If the lie is especially big, it can feel incredibly difficult to not head into the conversation with fear, anger, and sadness. However, according to Kimberly Giles, life coach and founder & president of www.ldslifecoaching.com and www.claritypointcoaching.com, you should try your hardest to approach the conversation with love and compassion (if th...
According to Psych Central, if a liar is a particularly sneaky one, chances are he or she is an expert at manipulation — so be mindful of this when heading into the conversation. This means understanding that they may try to twist your words or twist the truth so that it lands in their favor. Psych Central suggested proceeding with caution with the...
Earlier we talked about heading into the conversation with the person who has lied to you with confidence. Part of that confidence is being certain that you’re bringing the true facts to the table. After all, the point here is to show the liar that you are certain they’ve lied to you. Dr. Travis Bradberry, emotional intelligence expert, penned an a...
What you really want to avoid is crossing the line from a conversation about the lie to a all-around blow out over the lie. Keep calm, cool, and collected by keeping the tone conversational, according to Newsweek. The outlet suggested, for instance, approaching it like, “Hey, there is something I wanted to talk to you about,” and then chatting with...
When you’re a ways into the conversation, you might find the liar is denying the lie(s) at hand, even though you’re certain they aren’t being truthful. What should you do? Don’t give up. Rather, start asking them some specific questions. According to Forbes, a great way to uncover the lie is by asking the right questions that make the person have t...
When the lie has been fully discussed, you’ll of course have to decide whether you can mend the relationship or move on from it. If this is a relationship you wish to continue into the future and you’ve opted to forgive them, this person will need to understand that lying is not something you’re willing to tolerate, according to TheNest.com. Take a...
This isn’t always practical, but when possible try to keep a record of what happened in the conversation. One option, according to Bradberry, is to have a witness join you for the conversation to hear the liar’s words and confession (if he or she decides to confess). Another option is to have the conversation with the liar via written method — like...
- Erica Florentine
- Avoid engaging the pathological liar: If you sense that you are being lied to, perhaps you are. We all have an “internal compass” that signals trouble or peace, truth or fiction.
- Call them out: Sometimes it’s perfectly fine to point out that something isn’t adding up. You could most certainly put it on yourself by saying “for some reason, I am confused.
- Play “stupid”: I use this technique quite a bit in sessions with adolescents and young children. If I want a youth to open up or I’m looking to build rapport I make statements such as “…that’s not what I was told, can you help me understand because I’m a bit confused?”
- Don’t believe anything until you confirm it:Someone with a track record of lying behaviors should never be believed at face value. The moment you begin to appear as if youbelieve what the pathological liar is saying, they will run with it.
Apr 21, 2021 · Increase the person’s cognitive load. Lying while trying to appear calm and truthful is taxing; it requires a ton of mental energy. You can use that to your advantage. “When you are trying to think what to say, act composed, appear spontaneous, the load on your cognitive system is high,” Meyer said. “It’s as if many wheels are already ...
- Kelsey Borresen
Aug 2, 2024 · Before you react, ask yourself who this person is to you. “Anchor your response to the type of person they are. For example, a close friend who is typically supportive of you merits a different ...
Feb 3, 2023 · 8. Give Them an Out. Occasionally, a situation will arise where you know someone is lying but don't necessarily want the perpetrator to get in trouble. Maybe it's a justified lie; perhaps the punishment would far outweigh the untruth. Whatever the case, you're on the liar's side.
