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Feb 15, 2018 · With that said, the first and most obvious reason a Christian dating couple should breakup is if there continued relationship will lead to more sin rather than more glory to God. The main motivation for a Christian marriage is not companionship, financial stability, sex, or anything like that. Those are good benefits that should be enjoyed, but ...
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- It’s okay to cry — and you probably should. Breakups almost always hurt. Maybe you didn’t see it coming, and the other person suddenly wants out. Maybe you were convinced it needed to end, but knew how hard it would be to tell them.
- Don’t try again too quickly. Knowing and embracing God’s design for permanence in marriage and dating will help us feel appropriately, but it will also help us take healthy next steps in our pursuit of marriage.
- You may have failed, but God didn’t. The relationship may be over because of a specific character flaw or failure. There are things about us — weaknesses or patterns of behavior — that may disqualify us for marriage with a particular person.
- You are better having loved and lost. There’s a unique shame and brokenness associated with breakups. Relationships and love may be celebrated more in the church than anywhere else because we (rightly) love marriage so much.
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- Remember we live in a fallen world. There is no such thing as risk-free dating. Proverbs 13:12 reminds us, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.”
- Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’ (Matt. 5:37). Don’t beat around the bush. If you know you need to break up, it’s better to rip the bandage off and be straight-forward.
- Talk in person, not on email, Twitter, Facebook, or over the phone. This is a simple way to honor the other person and provide space for questions or discussion.
- Don’t make the breakup a one-way conversation. Often the person initiating the breakup has taken a great deal of time to reach his/her conclusions, so he/she simply unloads and leaves.
- Remember We Live in A Fallen World.
- Let Your ‘Yes’ Be ‘Yes’ and Your ‘No’ Be ‘No.’
- Don’T Make The Breakup A One-Way conversation.
- Be Gracious and Loving in The Way You End it.
- Fight Against Bitterness (Hebrews 12:15).
- Assume The Best in The Other Person’S motives.
- Preach Truth to Yourself [3].
- Find Your Identity in Christ, Not in The Lost Relationship.
- Don’T Assume That After The Breakup, You Must Go to Another Church.
There is no such thing as risk-free dating. Proverbs 13:12 reminds us that, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” When there is a breakup, there is often at least one who still hoped it would work out and has that hope deferred. Though we wish it wasn’t this way, we need to have realistic expectations and ...
Don’t beat around the bush. If you know you need to break up, it’s better to rip the band-aid off and be straight-forward. That doesn’t mean you should be cruel; we are still called to speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15) and to speak only those words that build up and are fitting (Eph. 4:29).
Often the person breaking up has taken a great deal of time to think, come to his/her conclusions and then unloads and leaves. Don’t do that. There are times when it will be helpful to leave room for a follow-up conversation, giving the “break-ee,” if you will, a chance to hear and process a bit. They may have questions or things to discuss afterwa...
The worst thing you can do is throw stones and cast blame on the other person, not only making them feel sad about the lost relationship, but making them feel guilty, as if it is somehow their fault. Even in the act of breaking up, you need to be thoughtful, gracious and loving towards the other person (Ephesians 4:1-3; Colossians. 4:6; Titus 3:2)....
When our hope for the relationship is shattered, it is tempting to play the details over and over in our minds until they fester. What can we do to fight against bitterness? (Take a look at # 8, 9 and 10.)
1 Corinthians 13:7reminds us that love “believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” We can’t peer into someone’s heart, judge their motives, and conclude that they were being malicious. Assume the best in them.
For instance, when you find yourself struggling with the temptation toward bitterness, you can let go of bitterness because God is righteous and just – we don’t need to take vengeance into our own hands. Paul writes in Romans 12:19, 21, “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I wil...
“I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:13-14). We need to remember that just as our identity is in Christ in the dating relationship (we are not defined by this relationship or by being pursued), so, too, in the breaki...
It ispossible to stay in the same church with the person you once dated. Too many people assume that they must leave because of how uncomfortable it is initially. It’s easier to run and avoid than to do the hard work of living “at peace” with one another, and eventually (sometimes years later), again being friends. It is not wrong to go to another ...
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Nov 11, 2021 · Although the Bible does not specifically use the term “dating,” the concept of relationships was clearly God’s idea, beginning from the Garden of Eden. Genesis 2:24 states, “That is why a ...
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Jan 4, 2022 · There is one thing that would definitely be a reason to consider breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 5:9–11, “When I wrote to you before, I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. But I wasn’t talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or are greedy, or cheat people ...
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Oct 18, 2007 · Biblical Dating: From ‘Hi’ to ‘I Do’ in a Year. Make a decision within 12 months and avoid the pitfalls of lengthy dating relationships. PART 6: Growing in Intimacy ». In matters of dating or courtship, I generally recommend that people either get married or break up within a year or so of beginning a dating relationship.
